Guard +1 when conversing with males

Issue: It's impossible to be friends with a girl without her thinking you want to get into her pants.

Should it really be that hard to start a new platonic relationship with a girl? Even better when they have a boyfriend and they just don't understand what that means. Don't even start with single. Here's an example:

Me: Hey I'm ShadowlessTomorrow. *extends hand*
Pretty girl: I have a boyfriend
Me: Wow, I didn't ask that but thanks for making a friendship with you extremely difficult for no apparent reason at all.

Now just because I listed her as Pretty Girl does not mean I was thinking SEX SEX SEX. Sure, she's cute. I have eyes. But there are some people I would just like to get to know. There have been times when I just felt someone's aura and thought to myself, 'wow she'd probably be really cool to get to know.' Or just saw someone, overhead them talking, heard stories and thought that they might be an interesting person to get to know. If it evolved into something where she would like to start a relationship, then I'm all game for that. But the initial interaction was, in all honesty, just to get to know her.

Why are all girls on their guard? I guess it's understandable. Guys are idiots and we don't think with the head on our shoulders, we use another head. (We also like head!) But can't you give the guy the benefit of the doubt. Give him a chance. I am a guy myself, a fact I can assure you, but I don't always think about how is the best way to separate a girl from her pants and subsequently layers of clothing. Even when I tell girls that I'm just honestly trying to get to know you they take that as some shrewd snake-like tactic. Pfft. Not me. I'm very direct and very forward. If I'm looking to get in a kiss before the dates over. You will know it. If I'm looking for a night of dancing then we part ways, Oh you'll know it. If I'm just looking for someone cool to hangout with maybe grab a movie sometime. You won't be able to tell the difference between me and other guys who want your panties on the floor. Ugh...

I've never had trouble doing the latter, hitting on a girl. I'm upfront that I would like to take them out on a date maybe some food and someplace we could sit and chat. I tell them I think they are very pretty very cute and I would like to see if your personality follows suit. No problem. He's very direct. Very forward. Almost too blunt. But at least I know what he wants and what's his intentions.

"I just think you're really cool and thought maybe we could just hang out sometime."
Yeah that's what gets me in trouble. I can see how that can -CAN- be misinterpreted but what if I followed that with.
"Someone cool I can hang out with. Like a good friend I can chill with and be myself."
Now where's the misinterpretation there? Come on? Anyone? And don't say that that's just a sneaky trick to get a girl to go out on a date because if they wanted to hang out with other people that's cool with me. Who knows, maybe one of her friends might actually catch my eye. hahaha

I do have to admit though. The girls I do talk to, I like in some form or another. Physically I mean. Call me shallow but how many girls out there would approach mister boils-on-side-of-face. They should be called shallow too! (and no, I'm not mister boils-on-side-of-face) But the physical attraction isn't the big or even main factor as to why I approach these girls. I just honestly would like to get to know them.

Cool, you play video games? And you think Supreme Commander owns the RTS genre. Shit you even know what RTS stands for.
Or.
Yeah I agree, the Nokia N95 is way cooler than the iphone. But I like the Xperia.
Or.
(they just have a sort of dark sarcastic personality)

Oi... I think me being misunderstood is going to continue for quite sometime... Even when I have a girlfriend. Still misunderstood.

Platonic Enigma,
Shadowlesstomorrow